Pregnancy stages information is usually readily available for the woman who has just learned she is pregnant. Some information is becoming more available for the men in the woman’s life. Sometimes, pregnancy stages information for children can be harder to find.
There is such a variety of children’s ages and readiness to understand the pregnancy that people don’t know what to tell the child. Adults need to look at how the child absorbs other information. Some children will not want or need a lot of information. Other children will seek pregnancy stages information themselves.
One of the first issues to consider is the relationship of the child to the expectant mother. The expectant mother can be the child’s mother, another relative, the mother of a friend, a neighbor, a teacher, or any other woman who might be close to the child. Closely connected to this particular issue will be the age of the child. Some mothers may not want their small children to ask too many questions or be told too much information. Other people may want to tell the child everything about the pregnancy that the child wants to know. This can cause a conflict and the adults should discuss the situation, if at all possible, before the child learns about the pregnancy.
Young children usually have a lot of questions about pregnancy stages information. They may not, however, be the same questions that adults have. When a small child asks a question, it is usually a good idea to learn exactly what the child wants to know. Many times, the child’s question may not be what the adult thinks it is. For example, a child might ask where a baby came from. Some adults may find this awkward, but if one carefully questions the child, he or she may only want to know the name of the hospital and if the baby knows the child’s doctor!
If a younger child has older siblings or is frequently around older children, the young child’s mother might find it helpful to give all the children some pregnancy stages information at the same time. The mother can then have more control over what the younger child hears, as well as give the older children some guidance on how much information to give to the younger child.
One also needs to consider how interested the child is in the pregnancy. If the child has seen several pregnant women, the child may consider it a normal situation and have few questions. Parents should give the young child some information, but they don’t need to give the child any more information than he or she wants at that particular time. It is a good idea, however, for the parents to let the young child know that he or she can ask questions about pregnancy stages information when the child does have questions.